Thursday, September 29, 2005

Tuesday's dinner date

Although Jim dropped me off at home on Monday morning as usual, it has gotten to the point the weeks are really long without seeing each other, even though we talk every night on the phone it just isn't the same. So I invited him to dinner Tuesday just so I could see him and it would break up the long week between visits.

I made a simple meal of broiled steaks, baked potatoes and a salad. And we sat and talked the Mighty Mouse wedged himself between us as we sat on the sofa and talked about our plans to move me to his place permanently.

This weekend will be filled with a group date to the local comedy club, I won 8 tickets for Sunday's show, and would you believe there are 4 couples in the OFA?
Well actually 3 couples and one batchelor but I am introducing him to Jamie's GF's Mom.

Have I told you that Jim hasn't any decorating sense at all? He has this gorgeous house and not a clue how to make it beautiful. Well now he has me, and this weekend I will choose the paint colors for each room of the house, keeping in mind that it can't be completely girlie and frilly. We have decided we will go with my bedroom furniture, and my living room furniture, keeping his dining room furniture. The family room we will choose the furniture together going with a TV/library/media room with an English gentleman's library feel to it. He already has his son and daughter going through their mothers things taking what they want. I have already allowed my sons to have all their dad's things they wanted and donated the rest to the homeless shelter.

My son Bobby will be home again next weekend hopefully his job won't take him away for any length of time any time soon. I know his kids miss him terribly. I am taking his son Quez with me to Jim's this weekend so he and Jim's grandson Zack can spend time together. They are looking forward to that.

Well I have to run right now I might post again later today. S

Monday, September 26, 2005

Perpetual Motion

Oh My God, things have been moving so fast since my last post I don't know where to begin. I'm still waiting to hear back from the job interview, I should know something one way or the other from that. But that isn't the only thing. I'm selling my rental property getting ready for the move in with Jim. I have 2 offers to buy that and will go with the best offer.

Jim met my oldest son Jamie for the first time Saturday. Now Jamie has been talking with my other sons Bobby and Pat, and has only been hearing good things from them, and has questioned me repeatedly on how any group of people could be that nice in this day and age. So when he came into town this weekend I invited Jim over and made a nice dinner for the 4 (Jamie's GF too) of us. After dinner we were sitting in the living room and Jamie volunteered to serve coffee and desert. He is in the kitchen and calls to me
"Mom, could you come here for a minute?"
I answer "yes, I'll be right there."
I walk into the kitchen and he bends down and whispers into my ear "OK Mom he is as nice as everyone says he is and you have my permission to date him." I laugh out loud and he gives me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and tells me he loves me.

After dinner Jim puts my bags in the car and we drive out to his place for the remainder of the weekend. Plans are moving forward on that front as well. We have decided that as soon as his garage is finished and he can move his tools and things out of the house into the garage to make room for my things I will be moving out there. Which should be by Thanksgiving.

Jim and I have fallen into a routine that when he gets off work on Friday he swings by here and I go home with him for the weekend, but since Jamie was in this weekend we changed those plans around a bit, now Mighty Mouse my dog and Hunter Jim's dog have gotten used to this routine. So Friday M&M is expecting Jim to come get us and Hunter is expecting me to be there when Jim gets home from work. Would you believe that when this doesn't happen on schedule that the 2 dogs pout? M&M mopes around all Friday evening, and so does Hunter. When we get there Saturday evening Hunter is still pouting and it is at least an hour before he gives me the love he normally greets me with. Jim and I thought this was so funny.

Sunday Jim's daughter Deb and her husband invited us to dinner, she and her husband and children are excited to have me out there on a permanent basis. Now I know that I only write about the fun and mild adventures that we have on the weekends. That I never write about any misunderstandings or arguments. That is because none of this as of yet has happened, and it scares the bejeezus out of me. Jim and I have discussed our lack of conflict too, and have come to the conclusion that because of our long marriages that both lasted for 34 years, we have learned the art of compromise, we know that if there is a difference of opinion all we need do is discuss the situation and we can resolve any issue that comes up. Because we are different people inspite of having so very many things in common and because we love and respect each other so very much we both are willing to work out a solution that is pleasing to both of us. We both know and appreciate that being intimate is more then sexual activity, sharing a laugh, sharing pain, just sharing our lives.

I received a call from the nursing home last week about my mother. She is doing very well right at this moment. But because of her health issues (alzheimers, heart failure) the quality of her life is not good. I have talked with my brother and sister and we have agreed that should she have another episode of heart failure that we don't want the medical staff to use extreme invasive procedures to prolong her life that we should just let her go in peace. Since I am the power of attorney for my mom I need to go into the nursing home to sign the papers giving the medical staff this instruction. Jim will go with me to do this.

Another thing we have discussed is we have both lost a spouse and that one day one of us will loose the other, and it is hard for us to make the decision to marry because of this. I pointed out to him that at this stage of our relationship that is going to happen any way whether we marry or not, because we are in each others life, and we are not going to separate eventually one of us will loose the other and regardless of being married or not it will be the same loss. So Guys expect a wedding about this time next year.



Thursday, September 22, 2005

Second Interview

Well guys I know I thought I was out of the running for the position I applied for, BUT, guess what? I got a call yesterday from the director of the hospital that has the open position for an interview. She asked when would be a good time for me to come in, I replied the first available time slot, which happened to be this morning at 11.

I started preparing for this meeting last night by taking one of those nice long relaxing baths, manicure, pedicure and so on. I chose the suit to wear and made sure I had all the appropriate accessories for the suit, shoes, purse, jewelry. This morning I woke early took my shower, coiffed my hair, took special care of the makeup, donned the suit, and at 10:30 jumped in the silver bullet and away I went.

I arrived a few minutes before the appointment just to be sure I went to the right place, (it's only a 10 minute drive from my house, which is very good). I walked around for a few minutes to get familiar with the territory and knocked on Ingred's door 5 minutes before the scheduled time. She seemed to be impressed with the punctuality. We shook hands and went into her office.

She began by explaining what the position entailed. How this being a county hospital, and this the pharmaceutical department how the job would be assisting people with the forms required for Medicaid, assisting the pharmacists and reporting directly to her. Then she proceeded to start asking me all kinds of questions using hypothetical situations, and how I would respond. I got the impression she wanted to offer me the job then and there, BUT she has several more interviews the rest of today and tomorrow. She did tell me she would make the decision no later than Monday.

So eventhough I thought it was a done deal apparently it isn't so keep sending me those positive thoughts, please.

Wednesday, September 21, 2005

How many do you have?

Okay I've been really really lazy this week not posting or even commenting very much on my friends blogs. But I am in the process of merging the STUFF I have/had in storage for the past year into the STUFF I have already in my house. This isn't an easy or a pretty task.

K to get to the blog title. When I was growing up in the 50's and 60's there was this Tolkienish mentality that forbade a 'nice' woman from being sexual, from discussing sexual acts and God forbid that she have an orgasm, and if she did she better keep it secret or the husband (yes it had to be husband there was no sex outside of marriage *wink*) would think she was a loose woman. Then came the birth control pill and the sexual revolution and voila women started to talk and to learn and by damn have orgasms. So now my question is. Which is best the G spot orgasm or the Clitoral orgasm? How many do you have and do you have them every time you make love?

I have learned from personal experience that a very talented lover with your help of course can keep them going from g-spot to clitoris and back again for such a loooooong time you loose count. I keep loosing count around 17 or 18. But Damn it is so good who cares. Then there are the simultaneous ones that can rock you into next week. S

Thursday, September 15, 2005

Real Women

Times they are a changin' and about damned time! ! ! With the release of Hanes ads featuring real sized women it seems that other areas of the media have jumped on the band wagon and are featuring real life sized women in their ads. I'm talking about the size 12 plus kind of gal. The ones that have true curves. The full bodied type. The ones that are the reality of most of us. In the era that I grew up there were the fashion icons such as Twiggy who must have been a size -3 and that ilk. Do you know how that made me feel being a woman that even though not fat was never smaller than a size 10?

Well I'm here to tell you that it made me feel fat. And I spent years thinking there was something wrong with me. With the 'D' cup bras and the round bottom. The media hyping thin, thin, thin. There are millions of women out there thinking the same thing. I'm here to tell you that women are beautiful no matter what size they are. Wether they wear a size 24 Womens or a 0. It is the beauty inside that makes you shine not the fashion industry.

I've worked with these wonderful women that have struggled all of thier lives because they didn't fit into that tiny mold of what fashion said a woman should look like. Watched them torture themselves with unrealistic diets (yes me too) trying to knock off a couple of pounds so they could fit into the current style or a smaller dress size.

Well Fat people of the world celebrate we are in vogue now. S

Wednesday, September 14, 2005

First of all thank all of you for the good vibrations for Abby's mom, she made it through and is recovering. Abby being the surgery charge nurse at the hospital was extremely worried with her knowledge being equal to any doctor, (although she would argue that point). But her mom is an onery old cuss hard as a pine knot so I was more concerned about Abby. I was proven right, God I love being right.......LOL.

I am resting up getting prepared for this weekend. Stacy I wish you could join this party. Another of the OFA another Fred is hosting a party at his parents lake. Friday night will be a fishing contest. There will be a prize for the largest fish, the most kinds of fish, and then the most fish caught. Then Saturday will be a fish fry. I will be doing none of the fishing btw. But alas I have been charged with making deserts and side dishes for the party. I really don't mind I enjoy cooking for folks that appreciate my efforts, and if anything the OFA have proven they appreciate what I can do in the kitchen.

The progress on my house, the last of the carpet was installed yesterday, so today will be spent getting all my stuff from the storage unit and trying to get it arranged pleasingly back in my house. It will feel so good having one less bill to pay. I will also try to get some pics taken and share the end results with you.

I still haven't heard anything from the job interview of a couple of weeks ago so I'm assuming that is a big NO. If that is the case then it wasn't meant to be, and I will find something else.

Monday, September 12, 2005

Home again

Another wonderful weekend at the treehouse. Friday night Jim, Fred, Abby and I went to Mineola again for Clint's prime rib. I wish I could send you all the taste of that over the net it is realllllllllllllllly good. I think I've told you that as well as running this tavern/restaurant Clint is also an Elvis impersonator. Well Abby pointed out to him that I was new to the area and I had never heard him sing with the exception of a few bars that he sang to Abby last week. This being small town America Clint fired up the kareoke machine and proceeded to give an entire concert just for me. He only sang my requests. I haven't danced or laughed so much in years. Jim even sang a couple of songs (badly I might add but I'll never tell him). He and Abby got Shit faced, Fred actually stopped drinking around 10 and wanted to go home since he had a golf date the next morning. BUT Jim and Abby kept saying just one more until closing time. Me being the only one not imbibing got to drive home on those dark country roads with no street lights.

Saturday Jim and I kept a low profile just resting up because Jim being a member of the American Legion had a parade that evening. He looked so good in the AL uniform holding the American flag as they led the parade. I had taken over a spot close to where we parked and where the parade ended so I wouldn't get lost. But when the parade rounded the corner and the National Anthem started to play, everyone stood and started clapping. I can't lie it brought a lump to my throat and tears to my eyes. There were troop after troop of the American Legion, and the VFW, vets from WWII, Vietnam, Desert Storm, Afghanistan, and Iraq. Then the ROTC Corp. The breeze was just enough to keep the flags dancing. The applause never wavered until that last troop was out of sight. What can I say I was brought up by a man that had been career military, I was taught patriotism and pride in my country. This display touched deep inside of me. On the ride home Jim and I held hands because this is yet another place our beliefs touch.

Sunday Jim's daughter and family came out to the treehouse and we grilled chicken breasts and made salads for a light dinner. When they left Jim and I walked over to Abby and Freds for another impromptu get together of the OFA group. Now everyone is harassing us wanting to know when we are going to make things more permanent. We tell them we are but not anytime soon.

I also want to ask all of you to send your good thoughts/vibes/prayers up for Abby's mom she is to have major surgery in the morning. S

Friday, September 09, 2005

Borrowed from the Wonderful WondyWoman

feed the meme: 200 Things

01. Bought everyone in the pub a drink. Not
02. Swam with wild dolphins. No and I've never touched an ocean.
03. Climbed a mountain. Yes a small one, Pilot Knob.
04. Taken a Ferrari for a test drive. No I'd be dangerous
05. Been inside the Great Pyramid. This is one of my dreams
06. Held a tarantula. Yuk no
07. Taken a candlelit bath with someone. Oh Yeah Babe
08. Said �I love you� and meant it. Yes many times
09. Hugged a tree. Yes
10. Done a striptease. Yes a private one
11. Bungee jumped. Not with my fear of heights
12. Visited Paris. No but another dream
13. Watched a lightning storm at sea. No
14. Stayed up all night long, and watch the sun rise. Oh yes many times
15. Seen the Northern Lights. Yes
16. Gone to a huge sports game. Yes
17. Walked the stairs to the top of the Leaning Tower of Pisa. No
18. Grown and eaten your own vegetables. Yes
19. Touched an iceberg. No
20. Slept under the stars. Yes
21. Changed a baby�s diaper. Yes beyond counting
22. Taken a trip in a hot air balloon. No
23. Watched a meteor shower. Yes, just a few weeks ago
24. Gotten drunk on champagne. No
25. Given more than you can afford to charity. Yes
26. Looked up at the night sky through a telescope. Yes
27. Had an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment. Of course
28. Had a food fight. Yes
29. Bet on a winning horse. Yes and dog
30. Taken a sick day when you�re not ill. Yes
31. Asked out a stranger. Does asking a stranger to dance count?
32. Had a snowball fight. Duh, I live in Nebraska
33. Photocopied your bottom on the office photocopier. No
34. Screamed as loudly as you possibly can. Yes
35. Held a lamb. Yes
36. Enacted a favorite fantasy. Oh yes
37. Taken a midnight skinny dip. Yes
38. Taken an ice cold bath. Yes
39. Had a meaningful conversation with a beggar. No
40. Seen a total eclipse. yes
41. Ridden a roller coaster. yes
42. Hit a home run. yes
43. Fit three weeks miraculously into three days. yes
44. Danced like a fool and not cared who was looking. yes
45. Adopted an accent for an entire day. no
46. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors. yes
47. Actually felt happy about your life, even for just a moment. yes
48. Had two hard drives for your computer. no
49. Visited all 50 states. only 18 of them
50. Loved your job for all accounts. yes
51. Taken care of someone who was shit faced. yes
52. Had enough money to be truly satisfied. yes
53. Had amazing friends. oh yes
54. Danced with a stranger in a foreign country. no
55. Watched wild whales. no
56. Stolen a sign. no
57. Backpacked in Europe. no
58. Taken a road-trip. yes
59. Rock climbing. yes
60. Lied to foreign government�s official in that country to avoid notice. no
61. Midnight walk on the beach. yes
62. Sky diving. oh hell no
63. Visited Ireland. no but another dream
64. Been heartbroken longer then you were actually in love. yes
65. In a restaurant, sat at a stranger�s table and had a meal with them. yes
66. Visited Japan. no
67. Benchpressed your own weight. no
68. Milked a cow. yes
69. Alphabetized your records. no
70. Pretended to be a superhero. yes
71. Sung karaoke. yes (and it was a painful experience for everyone
72. Lounged around in bed all day. yes
73. Posed nude in front of strangers. no
74. Scuba diving. no
75. Got it on to �Let�s Get It On� by Marvin Gaye. yes
76. Kissed in the rain. yes
77. Played in the mud. yes
78. Played in the rain. yes
79. Gone to a drive-in theater. yes
80. Done something you should regret, but don�t regret it. yes
81. Visited the Great Wall of China. yet another dream
82. Discovered that someone who�s not supposed to have known about your blog has discovered your blog. yes
83. Dropped Windows in favor of something better. no
84. Started a business. yes
85. Fallen in love and not had your heart broken. yes
86. Toured ancient sites. yes
87. Taken a martial arts class. yes
88. Swordfought for the honor of a woman. hell no
89. Played D&D for more than 6 hours straight. yes
90. Gotten married. yes
91. Been in a movie. just the home kind
92. Crashed a party. no
93. Loved someone you shouldn�t have. yes
94. Kissed someone so passionately it made them dizzy. yes
95. Gotten divorced. no
96. Had sex at the office. no
97. Gone without food for 5 days. no
98. Made cookies from scratch. yes many many times
99. Won first prize in a costume contest. no
100. Ridden a gondola in Venice. no
101. Gotten a tattoo. I'm in the process
102. Found that the texture of some materials can turn you on. yes
103. Rafted the Snake River. no
104. Been on television news programs as an �expert�. no
105. Got flowers for no reason. yes
106. Masturbated in a public place. no
107. Got so drunk you don�t remember anything. no
108. Been addicted to some form of illegal
109. Performed on stage. yes
110. Been to Las Vegas. no
111. Recorded music. no
112. Eaten shark. no
113. Had a one-night stand. yes
114. Gone to Thailand. no
115. Seen Siouxsie live. no
116. Bought a house. yes
117. Been in a combat zone. no
118. Buried one/both of your parents. yes
119. Shaved or waxed your pubic hair off. yes
120. Been on a cruise ship. no
121. Spoken more than one language fluently. no
122. Gotten into a fight while attempting to defend someone. no
123. Bounced a check. yes
124. Performed in Rocky Horror. no
125. Read - and understood - your credit report. yes
126. Raised children. yes
127. Recently bought and played with a favorite childhood toy. yes
128. Followed your favorite band/singer on tour. no
129. Created and named your own constellation of stars. no
130. Taken an exotic bicycle tour in a foreign country. no
131. Found out something significant that your ancestors did. no
132. Called or written your Congress person. yes
133. Picked up and moved to another city to just start over. yes
134. �more than once? - More than thrice? no
135. Walked the Golden Gate Bridge. no
136. Sang loudly in the car, and didn�t stop when you knew someone was looking. yes
137. Had an abortion or your female partner did. no
138. Had plastic surgery. no
139. Survived an accident that you shouldn�t have survived. yes
140. Wrote articles for a large publication. no
141. Lost over 100 pounds. no
142. Held someone while they were having a flashback. yes
143. Piloted an airplane. no
144. Petted a stingray. no
145. Broken someone�s heart. yes
146. Helped an animal give birth. no
147. Been fired or laid off from a job. yes
148. Won money on a T.V. game show. no
149. Broken a bone. yes several
150. Killed a human being. Does wanting to count?
151. Gone on an African photo safari. no
152. Ridden a motorcycle. yes
153. Driven any land vehicle at a speed of greater than 100 mph. yes
154. Had a body part of yours below the neck pierced. no
155. Fired a rifle, shotgun, or pistol. yes all 3
156. Eaten mushrooms that were gathered in the wild. Yes
157. Ridden a horse. yes
158. Had major surgery. yes
159. Had sex on a moving train. no
160. Had a snake as a pet. no
161. Hiked to the bottom of the Grand Canyon. no
162. Slept through an entire flight: takeoff, flight, and landing. no
163. Slept for more than 30 hours over the course of 48 hours. yes
164. Visited more foreign countries than U.S. states. no
165. Visited all 7 continents. no
166. Taken a canoe trip that lasted more than 2 days. no
167. Eaten kangaroo meat. no
168. Fallen in love at an ancient Mayan burial ground. no
169. Been a sperm or egg donor. no
170. Eaten sushi. no
171. Had your picture in the newspaper. yes
172. Had 2 (or more) healthy romantic relationships for over a year in your lifetime. no just 1
173. Changed someone�s mind about something you care deeply about. yes
174. Gotten someone fired for their actions. yes
175. Gone back to school. yes
176. Parasailed. no
177. Changed your name. no
178. Petted a cockroach. no
179. Eaten fried green tomatoes. yes
180. Read The Iliad. yes many times
181. Selected one �important� author who you missed in school, and read. yes
182. Dined in a restaurant and stolen silverware, plates, cups because your apartment needed them. no
183. ..and .gotten 86�ed from the restaurant because you did it so many times, they figured out it was you. no
184. Taught yourself an art from scratch. yes
185. Killed and prepared an animal for eating. yes
186. Apologized to someone years after inflicting the hurt. no
187. Skipped all your school reunions. yes
188. Communicated with someone without sharing a common spoken language. yes
189. Been elected to public office. no
190. Written your own computer language. no
191. Thought to yourself that you�re living your dream. yes
192. Had to put someone you love into hospice care. yes
193. Built your own PC from parts. no
194. Sold your own artwork to someone who didn�t know you. no
195. Had a booth at a street fair. no
196: Dyed your hair. yes
197: Been a DJ. no
198: Found out someone was going to dump you via LiveJournal. no
199: Written your own role playing game. no
200: Been arrested. no

Wednesday, September 07, 2005

Over Sleeping

Shame on me!!!! I overslept this morning and so didn't wake in time to get Quez and Bria to school on time. Sooooooooo I called their mom at work and had her give the school a call to let them know they were on the way. As well as to let her know she should wake me when she leaves in the morning for insurance. I feel so bad I normally wake or M&M wakes me at 6 each morning but not this morning 8:30. I suppose it was the rain that started falling last night and was still falling this morning for some reason that is such a peaceful restful sound for me. Oh Well, it can't be taken back the kids were late and will have extra homework tonight to make up for it.

Last night Jim called as he does every night we aren't together and I told him that I should stay home this weekend, I need to be here to suprvise the last of the painting (to make sure it is done) when I'm not here Pat always finds reasons not to finish. So I need to be prepared for a BF (bitch fit ala White Chicks). But my Jimmy was disappointed that we would be together this weekend and brought up the subject of our making me into an 'honest woman'. He threw out what my new name would be and I told him I would be keeping my name. That I didn't change it for my husband and that my sons wouldn't have a problem with us getting married but they might be a little upset if I changed my name now when I didn't change it for their father, and besides it is MY NAME why should I have to change it?

We also talked a little of what kind of ceremony we would have. (no we aren't officially engaged yet) It will be a small one with just our immediate family and friends, but I would wear a bridal gown and he a tux with my friend Reverend Marilyn to officiate. I do have quite an arsonal of wedding planners in my daughter in law Reesie and Jim's daughter Deb. And that we would take a real honeymoon trip possibly a cruise. Oh my God, am I really talking about this? It does feel right. Jim and I have such a loving giving relationship going here. It's funny but I probably want more people being a part of the actual ceremony than we will have guests. Then I think maybe just one attendant each our best friends Fred and Abby with my best friend of all time Claudia giving me away in lieu of my mother. (my mom will be there of course she just isn't physically able to do that part) I am just rambling here when this happens it will be next year some time. S

Tuesday, September 06, 2005

Back from the long holiday weekend

It was an amazing weekend with Jim and our friends. Full of laughter, lots of good food, yes quite a bit of work thrown in, and just plain having a good time.

Jim took Friday off work so we could really have an extended weekend together, when he stopped by here Thursday evening I was all packed and ready to go. M&M knows the sound of his car pulling up in my driveway now and was all excited when Jim rang the doorbell. He knows that when Jim comes to the door he gets to go so he loves the man probably more than I do.

Thursday evening we just spent time together (Walker does the number 20 ring a bell). Then Friday we were up early to go shopping and had a nice lunch at a nice restaurant, and then Friday evening we went on our first double date with Jim's and now my best friends. The Mineola Steak House in a tiny little Iowa town. You wouldn't believe the atmosphere in this little bar/restaurant. Clint the owner and chef has prime rib as his specialty on Friday and Saturday nights. Cooked to perfection. Clint prides himself on knowing all his clientele and is also an Elvis impersonator. So we got a private concert of Elvis songs (done very well too).

Saturday was another quiet day we didn't go anywhere or do anything exciting but sit and discuss our future combining our households, and so how excited his daughter will be to help with the wedding arrangements how my sons will react and so on. (This won't happen for at least another year btw).

Then Sunday was back to the grindstone for the garage the whole OFA (old farts association) was there, and giant strides were taken in the completion of the garage. They were able to pull the underground cable and attach it to the power supply so now the garage has lights, they also were able to finish the roofing. The exterior of the garage is now complete with the exception of the garage doors. I did the farm wife routine again making a spaghetti dinner for the crew. Then that night Phreddy and Abby gave an impromptu bar b que with all the OFA and there was so much back slapping and joking about the days accomplishments an outsider would have found it sickening.

Monday we were supposed to have joined Pat and Reesie camping but we were rained out they had to pack up early. So Jim and I spent another day just relaxing and visiting with our friends, talking and watching movies.

This morning when Jim brought the M&M and me back home M&M wasn't ready for the weekend to be over, when Jim walked out of the front door M&M was right behind him wanting to get back in the car and go some more. S